The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
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- Author：Elaine N. Aron
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Summary
Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams？ Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water？ Are you "too shy" or "too sensitive" according to others？ Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you？ If your answers are yes， you may be a Highly Sensitive Person （HSP）。
Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while， but for the HSP， it's a way of life。 In this groundbreaking book， Dr。 Elaine Aron， a clinical psychologist， workshop leader， and an HSP herself， shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations。 Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews， she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller， richer life。
Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while， but for the HSP， it's a way of life。 In this groundbreaking book， Dr。 Elaine Aron， a clinical psychologist， workshop leader， and an HSP herself， shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations。 Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews， she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller， richer life。
Reviews
Goofreads
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2。5
Tyler Hurst
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I listened to the audiobook。Pretty fantastic life guide that I could have really used to understand myself better as a kid。 Instead of embracing my sensitivity， I tried to sand myself smooth by constantly living in under and over arousal states， which lead to a bevy of terrible decisions and a wake of destroyed relationships—most importantly with myself。Author sounds like the grandmother we all really could have used， though I do hope for an updated version to really delve into the impact of soc I listened to the audiobook。Pretty fantastic life guide that I could have really used to understand myself better as a kid。 Instead of embracing my sensitivity， I tried to sand myself smooth by constantly living in under and over arousal states， which lead to a bevy of terrible decisions and a wake of destroyed relationships—most importantly with myself。Author sounds like the grandmother we all really could have used， though I do hope for an updated version to really delve into the impact of social media on the highly sensitive。 。。。more
PABLO PEREZ FERNANDEZ
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Life changingThanks God I came upon this book。 Thanks Elaine。 I could see myself reflected and recognised after decades of bein lost
Mayaduvillard
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Changed my life for the better。 Very well written， much better than I expected。 Helped me understand who I am。 I’ve felt less lonely reading these lines than being in a room full of people。
Acacia Mitchell
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As someone who is highly sensitive， this book helped me to reframe a lot of things I had classed as "over reactions" or things I needed to just push through。 It has allowed me to have more compassion on myself and to do the same for others。 As someone who is highly sensitive， this book helped me to reframe a lot of things I had classed as "over reactions" or things I needed to just push through。 It has allowed me to have more compassion on myself and to do the same for others。 。。。more
Violaine
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Aconsejado para personas que empiezan a aceptar y trabajar su hipersensibilidad
Faith Gudal
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Interesting and helpful information。 There are several specific applications that I skimmed due to those instances not applying， but overall worth the time to read， especially if you or a loved one are highly sensitive。
Kate Hyde
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DNF at 23%。I thought this book would be more about how to live as an HSP， but so far it’s just about scientific studies and examples of how high sensitivity presents in different ages。 I just couldn’t stay interested。
Tracy
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There were some good things about this book in that it helped me to understand things about my high level of sensitivity and why a react in some of the ways I do to the world。 However， a lot of the language felt pretty outdated and， at times， moralizing and contradictory。 On the one hand the author empathizes with HSPs -- being one herself -- and expends some effort in letting you know you're not broken， etc。 and then will suddenly come out with a "just get over it！" statement that seems somewha There were some good things about this book in that it helped me to understand things about my high level of sensitivity and why a react in some of the ways I do to the world。 However， a lot of the language felt pretty outdated and， at times， moralizing and contradictory。 On the one hand the author empathizes with HSPs -- being one herself -- and expends some effort in letting you know you're not broken， etc。 and then will suddenly come out with a "just get over it！" statement that seems somewhat at odds with her premise。 And oh， by the way， if we could just "get over it" we probably wouldn't be reading this book。 Several of her proposed tips for managing this trait seemed overly simplistic。It didn't help that I listened to the book on audio and it was narrated by a British-accented reader， which could make the stern bits all the more stern sounding -- keep calm and carry on！ Some of the advice sounded very much like it was coming from a much older generation， but I bought a cheap used paperback version and will likely skim through it again to try to take in a bit more of the information。 This book needs a serious， serious update -- right now it sounds like it was written in the 50s， but it was at least validating around a trait that seems to have become all the more heightened by the pandemic。 。。。more
Claire Currie
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Overall， a helpful resource that I wish more HSPs and non-HSPs would read。 As an HSP who is both introverted， but also outgoing， I wish this book had focused more on different types of HSPs。 I feel like this book was mainly centered on shy HSPs。 BUT， there were many good parts of this book （I earmarked a bunch of pages） that helped me feel understood and supported as someone who has always known that I’m more sensitive than most。
Seri
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*3。4
Jane
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Although I put a finish date in， it is the date I stopped reading this book。 I didn’t finish it。 In fact I hardly started it。 I tried a couple of times， but i just couldn’t do it。 To start， the type was awful。 I found it actually difficult to read because of it。 Then， getting into content， the introduction seemed to go on forever。 When that was over， I found myself skimming over paragraphs trying to find something relevant。 So perhaps （even though I scored pretty high on the “test”） this book wa Although I put a finish date in， it is the date I stopped reading this book。 I didn’t finish it。 In fact I hardly started it。 I tried a couple of times， but i just couldn’t do it。 To start， the type was awful。 I found it actually difficult to read because of it。 Then， getting into content， the introduction seemed to go on forever。 When that was over， I found myself skimming over paragraphs trying to find something relevant。 So perhaps （even though I scored pretty high on the “test”） this book was not for me。 I guess I will never know！ 。。。more
Marta
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Contiene algunos puntos interesantes （sobre todo concentrados en las primeras 60 - 80 páginas）， pero se repite demasiado en ideas poco productivas y da por hecho otras constantemente con las que no comulgo en absoluto （habla mucho de las PAS como si fuésemos tímidas， y yo soy PAS y super sociable y extrovertida）。
Laura ★☮☯
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A topic I can relate to well。 I found some of the chapters really interesting and enlightening， such as understanding the trait， and how it plays out in close relationships， work and therapy。 4 stars
astrid manzo
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Growing up in a society where everyone expects you to be a loud and chatty extrovert， it's good to know that I was always the different one because I'm a HSP。 I now see some experiences differently and I'm working on reframing them。 This book also helped me understand my HSP husband better and we will be making some changes to they way we go about some of our everyday life responsibilities。 Every employer and business owner should read this book as well！ Growing up in a society where everyone expects you to be a loud and chatty extrovert， it's good to know that I was always the different one because I'm a HSP。 I now see some experiences differently and I'm working on reframing them。 This book also helped me understand my HSP husband better and we will be making some changes to they way we go about some of our everyday life responsibilities。 Every employer and business owner should read this book as well！ 。。。more
Maili Knox
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I'm between 2 and 3 stars on this one。 I didn't know about the HSP trait prior to reading this， and the first chapter or so makes it easy to determine if you're an HSP and understand the basics of it。 My main issue is that for a book that was branded as a "how-to" guide， its material suggestions are greatly outweighed by Aron's defensiveness of high sensitivity。 At no point throughout the book does she stop emphasizing how misunderstood and disadvantaged HSP's are in an increasingly overwhelming I'm between 2 and 3 stars on this one。 I didn't know about the HSP trait prior to reading this， and the first chapter or so makes it easy to determine if you're an HSP and understand the basics of it。 My main issue is that for a book that was branded as a "how-to" guide， its material suggestions are greatly outweighed by Aron's defensiveness of high sensitivity。 At no point throughout the book does she stop emphasizing how misunderstood and disadvantaged HSP's are in an increasingly overwhelming culture where 80% of the population is not highly sensitive。 Her aggressive reassurance that being an HSP is a good thing （even though most of the world sees it as a flaw to overcome and makes almost every facet of your life more difficult！！） was redundant and， at least for me， counterproductive。 Aron also really emphasizes the significance of our infant/childhood experiences as HSP's and their continuing influence on us into adulthood。 A big chunk of the book encourages readers to consider our early life experiences （so early that I can't imagine most of us remember them accurately） and what we've carried with us since （e。g。 attachment styles）。 I have a pretty good memory and I was excited to possibly dig up something from my childhood that would explain some of my struggles with sensitivity as an adult， but as the book went on I got the vibe that Aron's advice was directed more towards HSP's who had particularly traumatic childhoods， not the average person with less severe struggles like misguided parenting， being yelled at， etc。 while highly sensitive。 It felt like I took this big jump into reframing my childhood only to be reminded that it could have been a lot worse。 There were a lot of other minor issues I took with the book （poorly organized， boring writing style， repetitive， author's biases slipped through， no conclusion， seemingly random final chapter on spirituality？） but overall I just felt let down by the lack of tangible tools for "thriving when the world overwhelms me。" It did help me understand the trait a little better and it was refreshing to see my experiences represented， but I kind of finished it feeling like I was supposed to convince the world to adapt to ME rather than the other way around。 。。。more
Jevgenia Uusväli
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One of the most important books， I've ever read。 Who is a highly sensitive person（HSP）？ How can HSP survive and thrive in the world， that is often full of simulations， overflow of information， sounds， smells？ This book is a manual for every person who like me thought that they are weird and even broken because violent movies made them sick or they cried after seeing someone on the street suffering。 This book is also very important to everyone who is in a relationship with HSP， whose child， frien One of the most important books， I've ever read。 Who is a highly sensitive person（HSP）？ How can HSP survive and thrive in the world， that is often full of simulations， overflow of information， sounds， smells？ This book is a manual for every person who like me thought that they are weird and even broken because violent movies made them sick or they cried after seeing someone on the street suffering。 This book is also very important to everyone who is in a relationship with HSP， whose child， friend， or colleague is HSP。 。。。more
Monia1234
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Ciekawe， napeno pozwoliło mi nazwać niektóre wydarzenia， emocje， sytuację itp。Aczkolwiek niektóre fragmenty mnie nie dotyczyły， przez co tak bardzo mnie nie interesowaly
Antigone
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Psychologist Elaine N。 Aron has produced several books on the subject of highly-sensitive people。 This appears to have been her first and is， I suspect， her most commercial。 In it， she attempts to introduce the theory that there exists a distinct set of human beings who are genetically wired with a heightened sensitivity to all things sensory。 Unlike the introvert， who purportedly thrives in isolation and opts for solitude or smaller groups when given the choice， the highly-sensitive person has Psychologist Elaine N。 Aron has produced several books on the subject of highly-sensitive people。 This appears to have been her first and is， I suspect， her most commercial。 In it， she attempts to introduce the theory that there exists a distinct set of human beings who are genetically wired with a heightened sensitivity to all things sensory。 Unlike the introvert， who purportedly thrives in isolation and opts for solitude or smaller groups when given the choice， the highly-sensitive person has trouble withstanding the cacophony of the wider world and is constitutionally compelled to seek sanctuary when confronted with an abundance of stimulation - whether she wishes to or not。 The distinction is a subtle one， and made all the more difficult to draw by the author's freshman approach to this sort of presentation。 Much of the material has been dumbed down for the layman， couched in wildly-contradictory terms， and richly romanticized。 Again， first book。 One assumes lessons have been learned。I do not give that pass lightly。 I found some very intriguing ideas nestled in amid the dross， and I do believe Dr。 Aron may be on to something here。 I might try a later work。 Possibly Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person - in which one hopes she'll be playing to her peers。 。。。more
Stevie Ekkelkamp
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The purpose of these types of books are two-fold， to give the reader a name to their frustrations and to provide the tools that can help them navigate the world utilizing this new found name。 This book excels in the first one and is powerful in its ability to give reason and provide a place for people to feel heard。 Where I found it struggling was in the second aspect， coming back to Jung's schemas seemed more like her research and opinion interjected into HSP's rather than explaining and giving The purpose of these types of books are two-fold， to give the reader a name to their frustrations and to provide the tools that can help them navigate the world utilizing this new found name。 This book excels in the first one and is powerful in its ability to give reason and provide a place for people to feel heard。 Where I found it struggling was in the second aspect， coming back to Jung's schemas seemed more like her research and opinion interjected into HSP's rather than explaining and giving tools for HSPs。 Still， while Aron pioneers this area of research， it's to be expected that there are some bumps along the way， and the core elements of this book are cutting edge enough that it certainly deserves a read。 。。。more
Felicia Priska
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DNF。 This book is so boring， it could be a sleep aid。
ميادة أبوالمعاطي
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مش رأي نهائي، ولا تقييم نهائيلنا عودة إن شاء الله، نعطي الكتاب فيها فرصة تانية لتحسين التقييم او إزالته خالص 🤷♀️
Tinae Goodell
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Interesting concepts and I can relate to some and other parts not so much。
Olivia Davis
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I have a lot of thoughts and feelings about this book。 I feel like it’s something I’ll have to come back to （I borrowed a friend’s copy， but think it would be good to have my own to underline/make notes in）。 It was definitely comforting to read that instead of something being “wrong” with me （for， as I’d often thought/was told I was overreacting） I just see the world and respond to it a bit differently than most people。 It was also interesting to look back and reflect on my different behaviors/t I have a lot of thoughts and feelings about this book。 I feel like it’s something I’ll have to come back to （I borrowed a friend’s copy， but think it would be good to have my own to underline/make notes in）。 It was definitely comforting to read that instead of something being “wrong” with me （for， as I’d often thought/was told I was overreacting） I just see the world and respond to it a bit differently than most people。 It was also interesting to look back and reflect on my different behaviors/tendencies throughout my life and think about it in the context of being an HSP。 However， I feel like now I have more questions than answers- while this book was a good overview on being an HSP， I felt there were some topics that were mentioned briefly， and also sometimes the author overgeneralized/made assumptions about all HSPs （even though she tried not to！）。 I definitely think there needs to be more research on these traits， and I think I would’ve liked seeing footnotes with the sources for some of the info she shared （but that could just be the scientist in me）。 I definitely recommend this book if you or someone you’re really close with is or thinks they might be an HSP because it explains a lot！ I would especially be interested in hearing from people in the fields of psychology/counseling （I told my therapist about the book and would love for them to read it！）。 If you’ve read it， let me know and I would love to discuss it with you！！ 。。。more
Pamela Larios
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Me parece un muy buen libro para acompañar con terapia piscologica。 Es raro describirlo pero， cuando vives con sensibilidad， necesitas ciertas atenciones especiales para tener un buen cuidado personal que muchas veces no conocemos。 Este libro tiene una excelente forma de atender las necesidades personales y creo que tiene actividades interesantes que permiten a las personas， con ayuda de un profesional de la salud， a cerrar aquellas situaciones del pasado que nos lastimaron y crear nuevas formas Me parece un muy buen libro para acompañar con terapia piscologica。 Es raro describirlo pero， cuando vives con sensibilidad， necesitas ciertas atenciones especiales para tener un buen cuidado personal que muchas veces no conocemos。 Este libro tiene una excelente forma de atender las necesidades personales y creo que tiene actividades interesantes que permiten a las personas， con ayuda de un profesional de la salud， a cerrar aquellas situaciones del pasado que nos lastimaron y crear nuevas formas de relacionarnos con los demas y con nosotros mismos。 En lo personal， creo que fue un excelente libro que me ayudo a crecer mucho y a dejar atrás algunas cosas para enfocarme en el presente。 。。。more
Kim
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3。0/5。0 - This was an updated 20th anniversary edition， the author added additional research。 Elaine N。 Aron is a research and clinical psychologist who has devoted her life to studying the trait that she calls HSP。 I'm not sure exactly how I feel about this book， on the one hand I wonder if it's pop psychology。 On the other， many things the author says makes sense， and helps me to better understand a few different people in my life。 The characteristics of an HSP （highly sensitive person） includ 3。0/5。0 - This was an updated 20th anniversary edition， the author added additional research。 Elaine N。 Aron is a research and clinical psychologist who has devoted her life to studying the trait that she calls HSP。 I'm not sure exactly how I feel about this book， on the one hand I wonder if it's pop psychology。 On the other， many things the author says makes sense， and helps me to better understand a few different people in my life。 The characteristics of an HSP （highly sensitive person） include keen imagination， vivid dreams， the need for alone time each day， empathy and conscientiousness， as well as the fact that noise and confusion quickly overwhelms them。 （Wow， she could be describing me！） HSPs are an understudied group， and often just described as introverts and/or shy people。 And while this may also be true for individuals， these labels don't fully describe them。 They are challenged with being easily overwhelmed， overaroused， and overstimulated。 The book helps individuals with HSP understand this trait， how it has affected their lives， and gives tips for how to better cope with it。 For example， giving presentations can be a challenge， not because they aren't prepared （they will be meticulously prepared）， but because they need to feel in control。 So doing a dress rehearsal can help。 The book goes beyond helping individuals and offers chapters for teachers， health care professionals and employers。 This is just one of several books the author has written on the subject， she also has books aimed at helping children， parents， people in marriage， and several workbooks。 。。。more
Alexandra
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DNF @ 28%I'm not one for self-help books。 I much prefer well-researched non-fiction。 I thought I would give this a go， but the below quote made me put the book down。 "Yet another form of rest， perhaps the most essential， is 'transcendence' - rising above it all， usually in the form of meditation， contemplation， or prayer。 At least some of your transcendent time should be aimed at taking you out of all ordinary thinking， into pure consciousness， pure being， pure unity， or oneness with God。 Even i DNF @ 28%I'm not one for self-help books。 I much prefer well-researched non-fiction。 I thought I would give this a go， but the below quote made me put the book down。 "Yet another form of rest， perhaps the most essential， is 'transcendence' - rising above it all， usually in the form of meditation， contemplation， or prayer。 At least some of your transcendent time should be aimed at taking you out of all ordinary thinking， into pure consciousness， pure being， pure unity， or oneness with God。 Even if your transcendence falls short of this when you return， you will have a bigger， fresher perspective on life。" 。。。more
Claire DeVolder
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This book has taken me almost a year to finish， and I am not fully sure if it was worth it。 I think some parts of it were insightful， but some parts missed the mark for me。 I can see how this framework and book could really help someone， but it just didn’t work for me。 I’m glad I read it though。
Karolina Sereičikaitė
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Populiari ir išgirta knyga， tačiau nesužavėjo nei jos rašymo stilius， nei skleidžiama mintis。
Benita Sulaiman
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